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“Stay positive” “Day by Day” “Stay in The Moment” “You can’t Take Care of Someone Unless You Take Care Of Yourself”..These are just some of the pieces of advice I’ve received over the last seven years. Some people think they’re all cliches,and maybe they are. The important thing is that they’re all TRUE.

     The difficult part is actually being able to possess the intestinal fortitude to LIVE those cliches. It is probably the most arduous of all the aspects of being a full time caregiver. I’ve had anxiety since I was a child. You will read about the reasons why someday when I complete my book. What I can tell you is that I was forced to be hyper vigilant and adult like beginning around 7 years of age. When you grow up in a home where each days events are uncertain,a person can tend to be extremely fearful when stability is threatened. Unfortunately,that is the type of emotional persona I possess at times.

   Among all the things we need in order to achieve a regular life,a car is close to the top of the list. Ideally,we just require a 12-15 year old vehicle that can transport us to local errands,doctor appointments,and most importantly,the 30 minute drive it’ll take us to get to the hospital where Karen will hopefully have her kidney transplant. The issue is,can we spend $3500-4,000 on a car when we’re still paying $500 a week to keep this temporary roof over our heads? At the moment,that answer is a resolute NO. Until our name comes up on the housing waiting list,we don’t have much choice but to prioritize the hotel rent. It seems like a waste of money to live like this. I’ve written and called our representatives in Congress and Senate. No matter how many inquiries I make,I keep hearing the same answer…WAIT. I thought we had a lead on a vehicle,but it fell through. We just don’t have the money.

     So many of you have gone above and beyond,with your friendship,prayers,thoughts,and donations. We couldn’t survive without it. We will never,EVER take that for granted. Sometimes,and I always ask God for forgiveness when this ugly thought pops up in my brain,I wonder how causes like getting a video game created can generate thousands of dollars within 3-5 days,and people in a situation like ours can’t generate just a little more traction. Make no mistake,every single penny you’ve donated has gone to our immediate day to day survival,and we could never live without it. We thank God daily for it. In addition,someday when we are out of this mess,I intend to start a charity for those people who are out there that don’t have any income while they’re waiting months and sometimes years for their Social Security Disability benefits. That was the first and foremost reason we are currently in the situation we’re in at the moment. Karen was forced to wait 5 years and apply twice and utilize 2 different lawyers in order to get what she paid into for years. I want to help those people and all people who may be one disaster away from complete family destruction. If I can,I will make that charity happen.

    In the meantime, Karen is still struggling with the treatments. We were told that when she sees the vascular surgeon on Monday,her dialysis will change and be administered through her arm. This will make her feel much better,so we’ve been told.

   In the meantime,we would appreciate anything you could either donate to our GOFUNDME which you can find on the pinned tweet on my X profile. You can also use PayPal or Cashapp or Venmo.

PayPal – Brian Nearey

Cash App $BFN73

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Once again,I can document everything we are going through. If you want any confirmation that we are truly in need,call me at 845 489 3018. I can provide any documentation you would want. It’s not easy to expose my entire life on here,but I have no choice. Please,help if you can.